Violet has always been a spitfire, but today she was possessed.
She has a mind of her own and I usually find her enthusiastic personality hysterical and adorable, if exhausting. She likes to destroy things and dislikes the time outs that follow. No surprise there right? Most of my friends with toddlers can place them in the crib if they are inconsolable or out of control. Both the parent and the child need a time out sometimes. Violet has been able to climb out of her crib since the tender age of 17 months and nothing could keep her in. For her own safety and because what good is a crib that can’t keep the darn child in, we removed the crib and gave her a big girl bed. Click on that link for a video of her getting out. It’s ridiculous.
Today 1 needed to contain her. The normal flamboyance turned flat out ugly.
She is obsessed with a pink fluffy dress up skirt. I gave up on limiting its wear months ago. Some battles are not worth fighting. She wears the skirt to school, to bed and when at home she is usually topless. Whatever, she is 2 so who cares?
Well, it all started with that damn skirt. She and her siblings dumped their milk and juice on each other so the evil skirt had to be washed. The fit she threw when I tried to take it off her was epic. She was hysterical
and she hit me repeatedly. When I put it in the wash she began to beat the washing machine with her hands, kick it and even head bash it.
Yes, I tried timeout. Total waste of time with a possessed toddler. She refused to apologize and with an evil grin said she had to go potty. For a potty training mom I let her go. Sophia made the mistake of giving her
my phone to use the potty app. The little terror looked at me, looked at the potty and tried to throw it in. She missed thanks to bad aim and a bounce off the kiddie seat but she was smiling. She thought it would be
l grabbed the phone and she began to physically maul me. If Sophia or Miles went near her she hit them too. She pulled on clothes, she pulled their hair and grabbed the precious Blue Puppy from Miles and bit it. Miles says his tiny stuffed puppy is his little brother, so this was traumatizing.
Honestly, we were all at a loss.
And she was naked.
And refused to put on any clothes or a diaper.
She threatened to pee on the floor. I mean it. She threatened. She said “I wiw pee here.”
She became a tiny ball of anger and I was overwhelmed.
What were we supposed to do? She literally seemed possessed and I was worried. Nothing could calm her down and I could see that she was extremely upset.
We tried to go on with our normal bedtime routine.
We cut the bath short when she started dumping water over the side of the tub.
We didn’t get through any books because she would grab each one and try to rip the pages. Then she hit us with books.
Without Ross here I told the kids that their baby sister was simply very upset and was having a hard time controlling her anger. I held Violet tightly and told them a story. It was the best I could do.
When it was time for bed, she protested. You may remember that Sophia has an over active bladder, so we went to the bathroom at least 15 times. It took an hour just to get Violet to put her pull up on.
Miles feel asleep without me even saying goodnight. He was so tired he just climbed into bed while I was attempting to control Violet. It broke my heart a little.
Sophia finally fell asleep and I laid with Violet while she started to cry. These were angry tears from a very frustrated little girl. She really wanted that skirt. She said no to every song I tried to sing and after 20 minutes of arguing and trying to calm her down, she finally passed out with tears on her cheeks.
I cried too. Physically and emotionally exhausted, I wondered if I had done something wrong.
So I ask you…
Did I have any other options? What would you have done? And if you had a never ending meltdown feel free to let me know that your child did not in fact turn out to be possessed.