As I watched Prince William and his gorgeous bride Kate Middleton walk down the aisle I cried a little. No, I have no crazy royal wedding fever. I have a general love of weddings and their significance. Babies and weddings are two things I can’t get enough of. They are two of the most wonderful and the most difficult experiences out there. I took my vows very seriously, as I assume most people do. Marriage is not easy for anyone. Royal or regular, wedded bliss is tough to come by.
The big day was the easy part. All that planning was nothing compared to real life marriage. From there it gets complicated doesn’t it? Two people sharing their lives is never simple. Then you add children and it’s hard to find time to focus on your marriage or yourself. At least, for me it has been hard. I am just starting to get the hang of it. I plan on getting really good at it some day.
I cried watching the royal wedding because I remembered my own wedding day almost 8 years ago. I thought back. There have been some very tough times. I would love to say they are nothing compared to the joy we have together, but I believe that making it through the hard stuff makes our marriage stronger. Our blessings are bountiful and the trials are making us tough. I want my marriage to be tough.
While we all drooled over her gorgeous dress and tweeted about her hair and wondered what it would be like to be a Princess (or Duchess), she was getting married. Just like the rest of us, marrying the man she loves. Love is the first part, then comes the marriage. She is a royal now, and a celebrity. She will be watched by the world in this capacity. But as a wife, she is a woman, just like us, who is beginning a journey that takes love, compassion, compromise patience and determination.
I love weddings because it is amazing that people love each other enough to take this journey. We all know, it doesn’t always work, making those vows that much more scary. Yet we still pledge ourselves to one another. We still take that leap. Weddings remind me that taking a risk for love is worth it.
I am going to focus on my marriage just a little bit more each day. I am going to tell my kids how important it is for Ross and I to have a strong marriage. I want to look back at that picture of us walking away after our ceremony and always think…I would marry him again in a heartbeat. I would do it all over for this love.
Congratulations to their Royal Highness’s William and Kate and to all the other people out there who have taken this leap for love.
p.s. My husband keeps making jokes about marrying a Princess. I totally did not get the joke until last night. Guess what his ex-girlfriend’s name is? Kate Middleton. Crazy isn’t it? If I were her I just might want to be called Duchess just for fun now.