I Want More Babies…

By November 9, 2010Get to Know Me, Marriage

Well, just one more.  The problem is my husband does not have this crazy mommy brain and body that dictates what I feel.  My whole body is screaming baby! 

These days, it might just be hormones, but why wouldn’t I want more of this? 

Me and Sophia in the Hospital

And this…

Mommy and Miles

And of course this…

Brand New Baby Violet

I adore babies and despite some awful pregnancies my heart and soul and body are calling out baby.  Baby four will probably never happen but I can’t help how I feel.

They are so precious and gorgeous and fantastically kissable and cuddleable.

Who wouldn’t want another?  And yes, I know they poop…a lot.  And also yes, I currently have a 9 month old who nurses throughout the night…still.

Do you and your partner agree on babies?  Or does your body cry out to you like mine does?

p.s.  No,  do not want to on a duggar-esque baby frenzy.  I just want one more.  I pinky swear.

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  • Fiona says:

    I want more – like you – just 1 more. No, we don’t agree. We didn’t really agree on having a 3rd but someone else decided that one for us! So, here’s to #4! Wish me luck, I’ll need it to get this one~

  • Monica says:

    I have a nine month old named Miles. He is my second biological child ( I have two that are adopted) and I am done! 😉
    Taking care of babies is SOOO mentally exhausting for me and I almost didn’t have another after my daughter who is now five but I am VERY happy I had Miles. I definitely feel fullfilled. You have a beautiful family.

    • Brittany says:

      Thank you Monica! I don’t think I am not fulfilled it is more my body that literally wants a baby. I can’t explain it. My kids are a lot of work but something just says one more! And thank you for the lovely compliment!

  • Shawna says:

    Our forth was a surprise and the most amazing blessing. I learned that there is always room in my heart for more. We’re done but I’ll continue to fill my heart with nieces and nephews and new friends.
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  • SuperJenn says:

    You pulled this right out of my mind! It has been heavy on my heart these past two or three weeks especially…I want one more baby. I feel like our home is incomplete without that fourth baby. I have horrible pregnancies…I’ve had tons of after-birth complications…but I have these wonderful, adorable kiddos…. I’m in tears over the fact that 2 and 3 just weaned themselves (while we were at TypeA!!!!) …. literally tears…because I know it won’t happen again.

    DH does NOT want another baby. He made that decision for us when SuperBaby was about one month old. It makes me very sad…about once a month he suffers immensely as my hormones take over and I rage and cry at him for lack of another baby LOL!

    • Brittany says:

      Oh sweetie hubs is in the same place as yours and it breaks my heart. I am trying hard to understand but part of me thinks this is a discussion that bring more harm than good. We are in different places on this one. I know you have been on a roller coaster about saying goodbye to those baby days. I am too. Every day I am happy to see them grow up and then immediately remembering them as my tiny babies.

      I wish this wasn’t so hard!

  • amber says:

    My soul is crying out for another one, but the husband, he says our finances won’t allow for another one. Money, shmoney. Mommy wants a baby!

  • Emily on the Southern Prairie says:

    We agree on having two, but I really feel the tug for three. I’m just trying to encourage him to keep an open mind for now!
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  • ModernMom says:

    I have 2 girls now 9 and 11, we debated about number 3 for the longest time. I think that longing for another child…it is always there. No matter how many you have, or how old your kids are. Some of us just love to be Mamas!
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  • Mama Fuss says:

    From the get-go, my husband wanted 3-4 kids and I wanted 2-3. Having just had my 2nd, I am completely up for the 3rd (not immediately, but eventually) but I’m not so sure about the 4th.

  • I’m right there with you! My husband wavers (mostly because he’s positive we can’t afford it) but I want another baby SO BAD (would make #3 for us). When baby fever hit me I practically RAN to the OB and got an IUD so that I wouldn’t make a rash decision LOL
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  • I feel like our family would be more complete with just one more, but DH is positive that we have our hands full to overflowing as is. Some days accepting that is more a struggle than others, but right now I’m ok with it. Wanting more makes me do a double take to be sure I’m appreciating all that I have–and that usually refreshes me and reminds me that yes, we would gladly make room for a #4 surprise, but yes, I’ve got my hands full to overflowing with our 3 too.

    But #3 was a TOTAL unexpected surprise and I’m thankful every day that God didn’t give us a chance to think about it and decide we only wanted 2–because I think DH easily could have. He just swooped in before we could catch our breath from #2. And without our little Speedracer our family WOULD be incomplete.
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    • Brittany says:

      That’s us too! Violet swooped in and we never looked back at 2 but we were surprised! Of course, if anything crazy happened we would welcome a child but I think my husband is doing everything possible to prevent the oops.

  • Candice says:

    I just have one (6 months old) and am still pretty sure I could be happy with just one… even though I totally believe that having siblings is a great thing.
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    • Brittany says:

      Candice I think there are a lot of people who are happy with one child. I always wanted a big family and was lucky to have an easy time getting pregnant (not staying pregnant but this is another story). I’m really glad my kids have siblings but of course there are times when I am sure they want me all to themselves too!

  • Kari Stafford says:

    I wanted four! But three is it, I felt I was getting a bit old and there was quite the gap from #2 to #3 – don’t do that, trust me! Anyway I was the fourth and last of my family and am so thankful my mom agreed. My dad bribed her with a fur coat – which she never got, instead it was a color tv – but hey she tells me all the time she never really wanted the fur coat, I was so much better than that 🙂 I am thankful we had the third though – even days when I wonder if it was the right thing because he is a terror :)(i love him anyway..lol) but i do feel our family is complete which I didn’t before with just the two girls. Of course our family was more peaceful before…..but that is another matter – he is a joy and keeps us young. very entertaining. All the work on the baby side is worth it – my folks have a very rich life with all the kids and ten grandchildren – it was certainly worth all the sacrifices I think. Ecourage your husband to think twenty to thirty years down the line, it all puts it in perspective.

  • Jamie says:

    I would LOVE to have a fourth, but my husband is done, short of an oops. I’m really not ready to have another baby quite yet and I’ll be 35 next August so, our time is really running out anyhow. I think I could have a million babies and still want more.

  • Michelle says:

    First of all…you are amazingly beautiful after spitting out babies. Makes me sick.

    Second…I am pregnant with baby #3 and already ready for baby #4. What the heck?! Hubby isn’t sure…and I’m like…”let us just wait. We don’t have to make any decisions right now.” Knowing that it will happen as long as we don’t take the proper courses of prevention because I am seriously the most fertile human on the planet. It is VERY EASY for me to have a baby…all I have to do is think it. So…I await baby #3…plan for baby #4 and hope that it’s twins so I can have FIVE! 😀
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  • Piroska says:

    I don’t know if that biological urge goes away, until those darn ovaries say “enough”.
    I’m in menopause (have been for 10 years)…and the urge is *still* there so strong, for babies.
    I guess at my age, it’s grandbabies that (hopefully) I will get.
    Enjoy those precious bundles.
    :o)

  • Rach' says:

    You are describing how I feel! We have 2- a girl who will be 4 in Feb and a boy who will be 2 in March. I have horrible pregnancies too, but I always think about 3. After these 2, we said we were done but I CANNOT stop thinking about a 3rd! My husband is more on the no side than I am b/c you know…they don’t have those crazy hormones!
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  • Bryna says:

    I want 2 (have 2) and am closing up shop. My hubs wants 3 or 4. Heck no! Unless he can figure out a way to carry them, it’s over.

    Besides… the Disney Vacation Package is made for a family of 4. I’m just sayin’. HA!

  • Oh, gosh. I want to try for baby number two in 2012, but my husband doesn’t want another one until The Boy is 5. I really don’t want to wait that long to have another child.

  • Claudia says:

    I hope this doesn’t come off rude but I would be happy with just one. Be happy with 3.

    • Brittany says:

      Oh Claudia no! I do not think you are rude! I am so happy with three. My crazy body goes wild every month and I am dealing with my emotions around having babies and wanting another and all that. I know that there are many people who would give anything for just one baby and I totally get that.

      I do think that whether we struggle with early repeated miscarriage (as I do) or infertility (as so many of my friends do) or mis-shapen uteruii or whatever keeps from having the families we dream of, it is not wrong for someone to express their hopes. It is not abnormal for a woman to want more children and express that while in no way trying to hurt anyone who has difficulty conceiving.

      My desire for another child does not mean that I am not happy with the kids I have nor does it, in my opinion, make me greedy or anything. I don’t think you were saying that but in discussions between those with babies and those struggling with infertility this topic comes up. It is heartbreaking.

      Thank you so much for commenting. I hope you are able to overcome your obstacles and become a mama, if that is your dream. Whether you have 1 or 2 or 5 each child is a blessing. I’m so sorry you are struggling.

      xo

  • Claudia says:

    I was wrong for posting what I posted. You are right…it is one issue to want a child and another issue to want another and a totally separate issue to love what you have…they are all separate issues. I just struggle with the possibility of never having and feeling down about it a lot. I am sure there was a lot of jealousy popping up in my thoughts when I decided to write that as well.

  • Melisa says:

    Never wanted any…and now I am expecting #2, which will be a girl. We are done after this. Party of 4 just has a nice ring to it! 🙂

  • Fadra says:

    Oh Brittany. I’ve NEVER had that body. I loved being pregnant but ever since then my body has only cried “What happened to our abs!?!”

    I would love for my son to have a sibling. I love cuddling babies that are 6-12 months old. But like one of your readers mentioned, it is mentally exhausting and I don’t think my brain was meant to handle more than one. I’m lucky I’ve survived so far 😉

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