Comment (as defined by Merriam Webster)
1. a note explaining, illustrating, or criticizing the meaning of a writing and 2. an observation or remark expressing an opinion or attitude
Class (as defined by Merriam Webster)
1. high quality : elegance and 2. the best of its kind
As people, we are all different. We have unique lifestyles, beliefs and focus. We come from different places and are headed in various directions. Our selves are shaped by a million different forces such that none of us are identical. This is what makes the world so fascinating, so brilliant and sometimes so difficult. We can never fully understand where even our best friends have been much less grasp what has formed the strangers we come in contact with each and every day.
We are all so different yet we are all equal in that our opinions and our lifestyles deserve respect. Not necessarily agreement, but respect.
Over the past few years I have added so many relationships to my life through this blog and becoming a part of the blogging community. Usually I am humbled and amazed at the level of the support we provide for each other on topics spanning the spectrum of our modern world. However, there is a sense of distance that people have in this online world, particularly when touchy subjects are broached, and I sometimes think we forget that there are real people with real lives behind the blogs we read and comment on.
In “real life” I have seen a lot of rude comments, sideways glances and rolled eyes. I have been privy to whispered secrets and admit that I am not perfect and have also engaged in gossip or perhaps cast a judgement without fully considering what I was doing. I am ashamed of that past behavior and have worked hard to accept all viewpoints and lifestyles without passing judgement. Of course real life is not perfect…but boundaries do exist.
In this online world, a somewhat rude comment quickly turns into a tirade or a personal attack the likes of which one doesn’t see every day on the playground. The relative anonymity of the Internet creates an environment where some people forget their manners and start spitting out some nasty words in comment sections and on twitter and facebook. Even when a comment is given that is not a direct attack, oftentimes it seems that there is no thought as to whether or not the words will hurt someone else.
In Blogging, like in life, a comment can lift you up or pull you down. It doesn’t hurt any less because it’s online. If anything, at least for me, it hurts more, because I don’t know where it might be coming from.
My mother always said “Is it truthful? Is it needful? Is it kind?”
Well, if an article is published that you disagree with it is perfectly acceptable to register your disagreement and state your own view. Your view is your truth, in this case. If you have stated your view and then bash the author or another commenter, I would say that falls into the “not needful” and “not kind” categories. I am not asking that people blow sunshine up the bums of bloggers during a disagreement. It might be better said…”Is it unkind?” Even with people that I differ with on every issue under the sun, I try not to be unkind. I don’t have to agree with you to like you or even love you. So if you are commenting and it is unkind, reword it. If you can’t be anything but nasty, exercise some control and move on. A nasty comment will not help any discussion. If you must totally vent write your own blog post and think before you publish.
I am asking you to join with me in encouraging Comments with Class. Comments are the lifeblood of blogging. We develop friendships and discuss issues. We learn from each other. Great comments are a part of great blogging. Even when we disagree, let’s keep it classy. And hey, classy can be funny and it goes without saying that in mothering all talk of bodily function and such will be permitted and even encouraged in the spirit of camaraderie. Oh, and let’s stay classy on twitter and facebook too.
If you are in, feel free to take the super chic little Comment with Class badge for your sidebar or anywhere on your blog. It will be on mine and I will probably use it at the bottom of posts that might be prime targets for people who bite when they type. The image will link here to this post.
Here’s a little one for you!
I hope that we can continue to make friends and engage in healthy debate while respecting each others choices. That would be a wonderful thing. Please let me know if you have anything to add or want to address. I’d love to hear your thoughts.